Isaac's favorite passage of Scripture was Isaiah 55:8-9 ("For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the LORD. "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.")
When it came to getting cancer, instead of thinking "Why me?", he thought "Why NOT me? What makes me better than someone else?". I'll be honest - when it came to falling in love with him, sometimes I thought "Why me?". I wondered why God would have me wait 27 years to fall in love, and then allow me to go through such pain with it. For awhile, I really believed that God would heal Isaac because there was no way He would allow me to continue through such pain. I prayed hard for total healing for Isaac, and everytime we got another scan that showed more cancer...I got angry at God, because clearly - it was His fault. One day, though, my prayers began to change. I continued to pray for that miracle of healing, but I also began praying that God would give me peace no matter what the news was. I prayed for grace, patience, strength, and the ability to accept God's plan - no matter what that plan was. God answered, and continues to give me all of those things and more.
Of course, there are moments when I am sobbing and sad and feeling crummy. There are times when the grief smacks me in the face and I just have to give in to it. There are times when I miss him so much I think my heart actually hurts. But, they are just moments. Sometimes, they are minute long moments and sometimes they are hour long moments, but they are just moments. God has graciously given me peace before and after the moments of grief hit. He reminds me that there is reason for everything, and that the pain I feel is not in vain.
During Isaac's last hour with me here on earth, I read chapter 55 of Isaiah to him and I was struck by the verses that followed his favorites:
"As the rain and the snow
come down from heaven,
and do not return to it
without watering the earth
and making it bud and flourish,
so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater,
so is My word that goes out from My mouth:
It will not return to Me empty,
but will accomplish what I desire